Monday, November 18, 2013

Our Forever Family

The past two weeks have been a whirlwind. A fabulous, overwhelming, emotional whirlwind. We officially and legally adopted Ashton on the 7th and then this last Saturday the 16th we were sealed in the temple as a family.

On the 7th we were scheduled to go to Court at 4:15 my stomach had butterflies the entire day and I kept having bouts of crying. I was so excited and nervous at the same time. We drove down to the court house with our little family. When we got there our family kept coming in. I thought it was going to be just my parents, my in laws, and Mark and Les. But my sweet sister Amy, surprised me by coming there with two of her kids. I of course, started crying. I was so happy! We entered the court room and waited for the judge. For some reason I had no idea that this would be like legit court. We even all had to stand when the judge entered. The judge was incredible! His name was David Mortensen. He was funny and lighthearted. He kept joking with us! They asked us some questions that they had to under law such as "Will we take full responsibility till Ashton is 18?" "Did we complete our 6 month placement?" Things like that. The last question they asked was our feelings towards the adoption? I had no idea they were going to ask that, so of course I start crying through my whole deal. But it was all fabulous. And after that, the judge said " I will allow you to legally adopt Ashton" it was really cool! It made all the hard ship and ordeals worth it! We were done! It was a great day

I had dreamed about being sealed to Ashton since we first found out we were prospective parents. So it was such an anticipated event for us that the morning of, I woke up and I literally felt like it was Christmas. I had been to a family sealing before and it was awesome, so I could only imagine what ours would be like. The fact that I would finally get to be with my little boy who was always meant to be ours was incredible. I sobbed through the whole day. I felt the spirit so strong. It was such a sweet day for us all. Although I cant share much, I can share that I know that little boy is ours and was always meant to be ours and being sealed in the temple to him only solidfied those feelings. Our Heavenly Father had a plan and we finally made that plan a reality!

 Last I wanna post the letter I wrote to Ashton when I made our appt to be sealed.

Dear Ashton,

I haven't written you a letter since a little before you were adopted. I figured it was time again. I was upstairs this morning texting a friend about how we are going to get sealed very soon to you. I looked down at your little face and got teary eyed. I always do when I think of going through the temple with you and your dad. I always get emotional when I think of the fact that I get to keep you, not just for a little while, not for this life, but for eternity.
I am sure you know, but in case you don't I want you to know I fought so hard for you. You were everything I hoped and dreamed about. But now that your here in our lives it's so much more than I could ever have imagined. I never knew that I could love a little boy so much. Even on the hardest days when I feel like a crappy mom and I think I don't deserve you I know this is what I am supposed to be doing. I know being a mom is my calling in life. It's such an incredible feeling.
Ash when I think of how you came into our lives and how it all worked out and how much of a miracle you are, it just overwhelms me. I know our Heavenly Father worked this out perfectly. 3 months into us adopting you, I was sitting there looking at you and I was over come with the spirit. And it just hit me that you were MINE! I knew before you were but it was just like for real deal! You were my little buddy in heaven and I am sure I sat there and said "Okay Ash, your going to come to our little family eventually, but you have to take a detour and come down a different way, but I will be anxiously awaiting you!" I know that sounds cheesy and lame. But I know its true! I know your my little guy. And sometimes I even get crazy thoughts, when people say "he looks just like you and Jake" I feel like thats cause your bits of me and your dad!

Anyways, I just am so happy your ours and that you will be ours for eternity. You have made our whole entire life! We love you to pieces! Love you Ashton Mark Frahm!

Love, Mamma


  1. I loved reading about your amazing day!!! I know it was a little different than yours, but I will never forget the day me, kaleb and celine were sealed, it was the most amazing day of my life!! I love seeing the three of you together, you are the best mom and ashton is a lucky little boy. sure love you guys!!!

  2. Best. Day. Ever. I feel so blessed I was able to be there and be a witness to such a sacred experience. How lucky you all are to have each other.
    Love you sis!!

  3. Ahhhh really? Did you HAVE to make me cry? Dangit. I loved this. I loved your letter to Ashton and all of the events that made him yours. The temple made me so happy. I'm so happy he is yours...forever! Love you!

  4. Janessa I'm so so happy for you guys! This is so inspiring. It's such a miracle the love you have for your children! I loved hearing your story, you are an awesome mom I'm sure!! Congratulations!